Friday, August 8, 2008

Expectations = Dissapointments

Woh bhi kya din the ke har waham yaqeen hota tha,
Ab haqeeqat nazar aaye to usey kya samjhoon
-Ahmed Nadeem Qasmi

Don't quite remember where I heard these lines but they are just so apt with us. We expect and then we get dissapointed. We dream and then we wake up to pursue it and more than often, fail. Life would be more pleasurable if we start finding happiness in smaller things, if we find happiness in present rather than setting goals for the future, the non-accomplishment of which will shatter the future along with the already worry-filled present. Increased expectations can make us cynics. We start by believeing in the possibilities of many a things - trouble comes when we start seeing these possibilities as certainities. And when these "certainities" are not met we tend to treat even the actual certainities with skepticism.




Someone (or I don't know where I heard this again) said that the past is glorious, present is uncertain and future scary - a very common feeling. But let's question this - why is past always glorious? Were we richer in the past than we are today? Did we possess more in the past than we do today? Did we have more loved ones in the past than we do today?

In all likelihood we are richer today, we posses more today and definitely must have added on to our friends and relations. Why then do we still consider past glorious? Because we have filled our present with desires and expectations and filled our future with the fear of not meeting them.

This brings us to another important set of questions - Do we then stop working for the future? Do we stop pursuing education/career growth? Do we stop putting in efforts and be happy with the status quo? Do we stop growing altogether?

Answer: No. Growth is natural, but along with putting in the efforts we probably must stop expecting results and take anything that comes in our stride. Let's see if that keeps us happy - I think it should!

As for the pictures, they are there just for the heck of it

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